One of the really great things about having loved ones–friends, family, spiritual leaders, etc.– is that when you’re going through a crisis and get tunnel vision from all the fear and anger life’s challenges throw at you, they can be a source of strength and comfort. They can talk you off the ledge. They can guide you towards a better, healthier path. A path where growth and healing are possible. And it isn’t manipulation, it isn’t denying you free will. It’s help, a clearer perspective, an act of love, and a belief that you are better than the terrible decisions we are all susceptible to making when the shit hits the fan.